Podcast No. 34. How a Father injures his daughter

The Impact of a Loving and Responsible Father If a daughter does not feel the presence of a loving and responsible father, it can lead to significant intellectual, emotional, professional, and spiritual underdevelopment. This absence may cause deep-seated serious trauma.

Two Patterns: Eternal Girlhood or Amazon There are two patterns that emerge from this situation. The first is the 'Eternal Girl' who psychologically remains young. The second pattern is the 'Amazon,' characterized by either a fighting mode or a mode of despair as an interaction with the world through acquired trauma.

Father's Influence on Daughter The father can unconsciously or consciously inflict trauma on his daughter. This trauma may result from the father being absent, weak, or neglectful. The absence of a loving and responsible father figure can cause deep emotional and spiritual trauma in daughters.

Romantic Experience Impact A woman's reaction to romantic experiences is influenced by her relationship with her father. If the father is absent or negligent, it affects the daughter's intellectual, emotional, professional development as well as her uniqueness and femininity.

Father-Daughter Relationship Dynamics The role of fathers in their daughters' lives is crucial for their transition into adulthood. Fathers help daughters integrate external world values while learning to interact with men positively and handle conflicts effectively.

Psychological Patterns & Archetypes 'Eternal youth' archetype: When a man fails to discipline himself or lacks internal orderliness (as an improper model), he hinders his daughter’s ability to cope with difficult situations.'Analytical psychology': Explores archetypes deeply rooted within individuals; patterns like 'eternal youth' influence interactions between fathers and daughters

How Girls Deal with Trauma Based on Father Relationships Girls deal with trauma differently based on their experiences with their fathers. Some exhibit soft behavior, while others show an absence of emotion or act tough. Linda Leonard's work on female trauma in the Jungian tradition provides examples and patterns that form two main coping mechanisms: becoming a perpetual girl or an Amazon warrior.

Psychological Coping Patterns for Dealing with Traumatic Experiences There are specific ways in which the psyche copes with traumatic experiences, forming two primary patterns: rushing to grow up or remaining small (transactional analysis), and internal prohibitions leading to either despair or resistance. These conflicting patterns often coexist due to emotional trauma surrounding father-daughter relationships.

Behavior Patterns of Traumatized Girls The behavior patterns of traumatized girls are genetically similar, but the conditions they face vary. These patterns involve decision-making about how to live and what role to play, often leading them to marry authoritarian men and embody a passive form while still rebelling internally.

Eternal Girl Syndrome Many women exhibit the Eternal Girl Syndrome, remaining emotionally dependent on others and taking on a passive form. They may rebel against this passivity but ultimately remain as helpless victims in their own lives due to manipulative tendencies that invite helplessness through manipulation.

Amazonian Armor Complex 'Amazonian' women seek control and strength while rejecting emotions as weakness. They strive for control over everything around them for safety but end up exhausted from excessive responsibility, leading them to attack themselves mentally or physically when unable to show vulnerability or emotion.

Patterns in a woman's behavior arise from internal conflicts, influenced by character and temperament. Decision-making is linked to physiological reactions and genetic predispositions, leading to tendencies of either struggle or desperation.

Impact of Trauma on Girls' Lives Trauma can have different effects on girls, influencing their behavior and self-perception. It shapes patterns in relationships and overall behavior.

Eternal Girl Pattern Girls may adopt the eternal girl pattern, acting like a helpless doll to seek attention and approval from men. This pattern affects their self-image and behaviors based on past traumas.

Glass Girl Pattern The glass girl pattern involves portraying innocence, fragility, and detachment from reality as a defense mechanism against societal rejection or paternal influence. It leads to internal conflict between guilt and innocence.

'Don Juan' Girls Pattern 'Don Juan' girls exhibit impulsive freedom in expressing sexuality without boundaries or responsibility. They tend to avoid limitations but face conflicts with real-life constraints.

The Influence of the Amazon Pattern in Life The Amazon pattern, also known as 'Amazon in Armor,' affects women's lives by rejecting traditional feminine qualities and embracing masculine aspects. This rejection leads to one-sidedness and victimization.

The Superstar: Overcompensating for Unfulfilled Desires Women adopt the superstar pattern when they overcompensate for their father's unfulfilled desires by striving for professional success at all costs, ignoring their own needs and suffering internally.

The Submissive Martyr: Carrying Burdens That Aren't Theirs Some women exhibit a submissive martyr pattern due to maternal criticism and absent or weak paternal figures. They carry excessive burdens without considering their own well-being, leading to health issues and emotional emptiness.

'Queen Warrior': Rejecting Male Authority with Irony 'Queen Warriors' reject male authority while ironically adopting a strong masculine model. They become leaders but suffer from internal conflict between femininity and power struggles within family dynamics.

Understanding Patterns and Self-Awareness The speaker discusses the concept of patterns and how they influence women's behavior, including their relationships with authority figures. He explains that recognizing these patterns is crucial for self-awareness and personal growth. Additionally, he emphasizes the therapeutic aspect of confronting suppressed emotions.

Fatherly Approval and Psychotherapy The discussion delves into the impact of fatherly approval on a woman's development, highlighting the importance of granting oneself permission to seek help or express vulnerability. The speaker also touches on psychotherapy as a means to form new models for both boys and girls in order to facilitate healing from past traumas.