Intro
00:00:00Identifying and avoiding six unattractive habits that signal a lack of confidence.
1: Avoidant body language
00:00:07Avoid avoidant body language like lack of eye contact or turning away, as it hinders connection and respect. Strong body language, such as maintaining eye contact and open posture, instantly boosts first impressions and garners more respect from others.
2: Talking tentatively
00:01:31Avoiding body language and talking tentatively can boost confidence. Kristen Stewart's experience in handling filler words and stuttering highlights the importance of giving oneself permission to pause before responding, leading to improved communication skills. By practicing powerful pauses instead of using fillers, individuals can enhance their presence and make a stronger impression during conversations.
3: Asking first instinct questions
00:03:40Avoid asking common first instinct questions like 'What's the most mispronounced name you've heard?' Instead, ask unique and engaging questions that make the other person excited to answer. For example, inquire about something they're proud of or passionate about, such as a detail in their home design.
4: Retreating after a miss
00:04:50Retreating after a failed joke is common but can be avoided by not taking it too seriously. Instead of retreating, make light of the situation and laugh at yourself. This helps in recovering from a bad joke smoothly.
5: Injecting an unnecessary brag into conversation
00:06:30Injecting unnecessary brags into conversations can backfire, as seen in the Liver King video where an apology was overshadowed by wealth flaunting. People often force what they think makes them likable or admirable into discussions to seek approval. Sharing interesting aspects of your life is fine but should be done naturally, like Jamie Foxx's story about meeting Kanye West.
6: Prioritizing being agreeable over being true to yourself
00:07:56Prioritizing Being Agreeable vs. True to Yourself Choosing agreeability over authenticity can harm self-esteem and confidence, leading to a lack of respect from others. Speaking truth even when uncomfortable is key for building confidence and strong relationships, as demonstrated by iconic characters like Don Draper and Tommy Shelby.
Building Confidence Through Honesty Starting with small honest actions cultivates the habit of speaking truth to power gradually increasing in difficulty over time. This practice leads to high self-esteem, respect, and better relationships. Programs like Charisma University offer structured guidance for developing unshakable confidence through daily actionable steps.